How can you understand and recover from a breakup/divorce?
Leo, my strong and radiant soul, I know that when you love, you love with the force of the sun. You give everything—your passion, your energy, your loyalty, and your heart—without hesitation, without fear, without holding anything back. Love, for you, is not just a relationship; it is a grand, all-encompassing experience, a stage upon which you shine your brightest, a place where you pour every ounce of your devotion. When you love, you make your partner feel like the most important person in the world, and in return, you expect the same. You expect a love that is bold, that is certain, that is unwavering. And when love is lost—whether through a breakup or a divorce—it feels like more than just an ending. It feels like the closing of a chapter you never wanted to end, the loss of a story you believed would last forever. It is a pain that cuts deep, not just because of the love itself, but because you believed in it so fiercely, because you gave everything you had to make it work.
Right now, I know your heart feels like it is carrying the weight of the world. The pain is not just in the absence of the person you loved—it is in the silence where there used to be laughter, in the dreams that suddenly feel like they were built on sand, in the memories that play in your mind like a movie you can’t seem to turn off. And Leo, I know that you are trying to be strong. I know that you are doing everything you can to hold your head high, to move forward, to remind the world—and yourself—that you are still standing. But I need you to know that healing does not mean pretending you are okay before you truly are. Strength does not mean pushing the pain aside and acting as though it does not exist. True strength, my dear Leo, is allowing yourself to feel. It is giving yourself the grace to grieve. It is understanding that even the fiercest hearts need time to mend.
Your first instinct may be to throw yourself into distractions—to fill your life with excitement, with new experiences, with anything that keeps you from sitting still long enough to feel the depth of this loss. And there is nothing wrong with movement, nothing wrong with reminding yourself that life is still beautiful, that joy still exists, that you are still the vibrant, magnetic force you have always been. But do not mistake distraction for healing. Do not rush so quickly into proving that you are fine that you do not give yourself the time to truly process what has happened. You are not someone who loves lightly, Leo, and because of that, you cannot expect yourself to heal lightly either. Love was a home you built with someone, and now that home has been dismantled. It is okay to stand in the rubble for a moment. It is okay to mourn what was lost before you start building something new.
I know that part of you is looking for answers, searching for the "why" in all of this. Why did this happen? Why did love, something you believed in so fiercely, slip through your fingers? Why did the person you gave your heart to not fight for it the way you would have? And Leo, I know how much that question burns inside you. But some answers, no matter how hard we search for them, will never come in the way we want them to. Sometimes, love ends not because it was not real, but because it was not meant to be forever. Sometimes, the universe removes what is not aligned with our highest path, not to punish us, but to guide us toward something greater. And I know that right now, that does not make the pain any easier. I know that you wanted this love to last. But Leo, just because it ended does not mean it was not worth it. Just because it ended does not mean you were not enough.
There will be moments when the loneliness feels unbearable, when you miss them in a way that feels almost physical, when you wonder if you will ever find a love that feels as consuming as this one did. And in those moments, I need you to remember who you are. You are not just someone who loves—you are someone who is love. You do not need another person to validate your worth, to prove that you are special, to make you feel seen. You are already magnificent, already whole, already more than enough exactly as you are. This relationship did not define you. It was a part of your journey, a chapter in your story, but it is not the entire book. And this pain, as overwhelming as it is now, will not be the thing that breaks you. It will be the thing that shapes you, that strengthens you, that prepares you for the kind of love that will never make you question whether you are enough—because it will already know.
Healing, for you, Leo, comes in remembering your power. It comes in reconnecting with the things that make you feel alive. It comes in surrounding yourself with people who uplift you, who remind you that you are still the same brilliant, captivating force you have always been. It comes in creating, in expressing, in allowing yourself to shine again, even when it feels difficult. It comes in looking in the mirror and remembering that you are not just the sum of your past relationships—you are a force all on your own. And when you do that, when you reclaim your energy, when you step back into the fullness of who you are, you will realize that this loss, painful as it was, did not take anything away from you. It simply cleared space for something even greater.
One day, Leo, when the time is right, love will find you again. And this time, it will be different. This time, it will not be love that leaves you guessing, love that makes you question your place in someone’s life, love that requires you to dim your light just to make it work. It will be love that sees you, love that adores you, love that meets you at your level and never asks you to be anything less than the vibrant, unstoppable soul that you are. And when that love comes, you will not have to fight for it—it will flow to you effortlessly, because you will have already learned that real love does not need to be forced. It simply is.
But for now, Leo, let yourself heal. Let yourself feel without rushing to fix it. Let yourself grieve without believing that it makes you weak. And when you are ready, when the pain has softened and the fire within you has reignited, you will step forward into a future that is waiting for you with open arms. Because this is not the end of your love story, my dear—it is only the beginning of something even more magnificent than you ever imagined.